What Is Your Love?

There are two types of Love – Self-centered Love and Self-denying Love. What is Your Love? Read on, assess yourself, and become a better lover! SELF-CENTERED LOVE Characteristics Love is real, but it does not have God, neither others, as the center of its affection It is sentimental, sensual conditional, and irresponsible. thoughts, feelings and actions are immature and unstable in its self-centered attitudes, seeks to manipulate the person loved ♥ "This is what I want” ♥ "If I love you… What do I get in return? ♥ "I’ll treat you well when you give me what I want, otherwise forget it!” ♥ "If you stop crying, ill give you an ice cream.” ♥ "Husband: “I’ll love you if you give me sex”. Wife: “I’ll give you sex if you love me. Motivation Satisfy and please self Give love to receive love Withhold love in order to manipulate or punish Result Temporary satisfaction and happiness Insecurity and emotional restlessness Loneliness and emptiness Development of defense mechanism in order to avoid pain Dishonesty confusion, and fragmented inner psyche Addictions Conflict and disunity within relationships Growing apart, isolation, divorce Pain SELF-DENYING LOVE Characteristics Love transcends selfishness, sensuality, responsibility and duty as the motivators to love Seeks to do what is best for others Thoughts, feelings and actions are stable and mature This love is the life-giving energy of the Spirit of God. When we receive it, God in us creates a new life. ♥ "I don’t like what he did, but oh God, How can l bless him? ♥ "I’ll please her, and satisfy her needs, even though she is nor doing the same for me.” ♥ "I’ll take the initiative to ask forgiveness and be loving toward him, even if he rejects me ♥ "I’ll live in forgiveness, allowing the love of God to glow through me toward everybody, especially those that hurt me. Describe your feelings, words and actions towards your partner. Motivation Profound gratitude for God’s love, forgiveness and mercy Intense desire to love others as God loves me Result Joy, contentment and profound internal peace even in the midst of conflict Security and emotional stability Willingness to accept pain as part of the process to learn how to love God given ability to forgive Transparency, honesty, unity and inner psyche congruency Intense unify with others Emotional, mental, physical and spiritual health Spiritual discernment Pain Print | Email | Save | Feed | Alerts Save/Share DiggIt! Del.icio.us Blinklist Yahoo Furl Technorati Simpy Spurl Reddit Stumble Upon Add Any Windows Live Facebook Google Comments This article has no comments.Comment This Article Ads by Google Headlines » Sex/Relationships WHAT IS YOUR LOVE ? » 13-3-2008 Virtual affairs cause real problems » 17-2-2008 Masturbation no longer hands-off topic » 17-2-2008 Does sex impede performance? » 17-2-2008 Examining the rules of attraction » 17-2-2008 How to make your relationship the best thing in your life » 3-2-2008 When Your Friends Hate Your Partner » 25-1-2008 Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Not Doing It » 18-1-2008 Defining Virginity » 18-1-2008 How to cope with a much prettier friend » 13-1-2008 How to help your partner if he's depressed » 13-1-2008 Love v/s Marriage » 5-1-2008 "You'll never feel fully secure in a relationship if you dish out or accept verbal attacks." » 1-1-2008 Six Signs Your Relationship Is Bad for You » 1-1-2008 Losing It: All About Virginity » 28-12-2007 Quote Of The day Experts are certified scam-artists; just as non-experts are people willing to be scammed by charlatans. - By: Kwame Okoampa-Ahoofe, Jr. More Quotes | Submit Quote